The more I read the comments threads at Troppo, the angrier I get. Not because of people like observa saying homosexuality is a perversion, no different to bestiality or paedophilia — you get that from time to time, and you learn to read past it.
No, I get angry about Ken Parish’s insistence that gay teachers don’t “flaunt” their sexuality by having a five-minute discussion about their partner (and there is no evidence that sex was actually discussed) when the students instigate it. I’ll avoid the posts where Ken uses terms like “brainwashed,” because he had obviously become exasperated by that stage. I think his argument is fairly summed up by this extract from one of his earlier comments:
There is a critical distinction between a class teacher discussing the existence of different sexualities in the abstract in sex education classes for primary age children, while being careful not to express any view as to the morality of any such behaviour, and discussing it in very concrete terms after the children have seen the teacher with her partner. The latter unavoidably conveys the value that this is a perfectly acceptable lifestyle choice no different from any other. Like it or not, that is a highly socially-contested value. You and I may agree with it, but many Australians don’t and they have every right to object to you and I inflicting our values on their children. If you don’t accept that restriction on the freedom of your words and behaviour while in the presence of the children you teach, then you shouldn’t be a teacher at all.
Ken argues that because there is widespread (but, according to the report he cites, shrinking) opposition to homosexuality in the Australian community, gay teachers should avoid discussing their personal lives with their students. Heterosexual teachers, on the other hand, have a free rein. This is because “no-one ever gave [gay teachers] a democratic mandate for it”.
Nuts to that. We don’t elect teachers, we elect members of parliament. It is up to them, through the relevant Minister, to set education policy. If parents aren’t happy with what is being taught in schools, they should vote for a party that runs a different line. And while John Howard likes to rail about the influence of PC unionists in schools, the people keep electing Labor governments to run the schools.
Meanwhile, I’d like to see Ken respond properly to the “miscegenation” analogy. Yellowvinyl put forward this suggestion:
I put to you, Ken, that it doesn’t matter a fuck if a parent thinks being gay is morally wrong. maybe 50 years ago in the States parents in the South thought it was morally wrong for black and white people to marry. thus they wanted segregation in schools. it was clearly ethically right for the US supreme court and LBJ to desegregate schools, because their values were based on *PREJUDICE*.
After some prodding, Ken responded:
yellowvinyl’s analogy is a false one. Requiring that people may not discriminate by conduct (e.g. by dictating what school they can attend or who they can marry) is qualitatively different from telling them what they must think, and ensuring that the next generation subscribes to YOUR preferred views by brainwashing their kids against the wishes of the parents.
To a certain extent, he’s right that the analogy is false, but it doesn’t take a massive leap to fix it. Let me try.
Some people believe that homosexuality is unnatural and abominable. They would prefer it was punished according to God’s will, but because they live in a secular, pluralist nation they are prepared to compromise. They think gay people should just keep themselves to themselves and stop foisting their horrible sexual practices on our children. One of the most insidious ways that they do this is by discussing their disgusting homosexual relationship in class as if it was normal.
Similarly, some people believe that miscegenation is unnatural and abominable. They would prefer it was punished according to God’s will, but because they live in a secular, pluralist nation they are prepared to compromise. They think race-mixers should just keep themselves to themselves and stop foisting their horrible sexual practices on our children. One of the most insidious ways that they do this is by discussing their disgusting mixed-race relationship in class as if it was normal.
In both cases, assume that the majority of the school community is opposed to the sexual abomination in question.
Now imagine that the students see a black man collect their teacher after school. They prod her to talk about it, and a five-minute conversation ensues: “Yes, my husband is black. Sure, lots of people have black husbands. Oh, your aunty is married to a black man? That’s nice dear.”
Should we immediately characterise this conversation as sexual (marriage is, after all, a proxy for sexual activity), and should we reprimand the teacher for brainwashing the children and defying the parents’ democratic right to inculcate their children with bigotry?
Disclosure: I do know a gay teacher, but I don’t have children. This is relevant because if I had children I would apparently become scared that they might catch gay from him.
Update: Don’t miss Mark Bahnisch’s excellent history of the closet, which picks up a theme of my previous post but puts it in context and argues it more eloquently and forcefully:
The significance of the closet is that queer people were meant to be complicit in their own subordination. By being unable to speak their truth, or the truth of their desires, they were taught to despise themselves as dirty and unnatural beings. Even now, the rhetoric of “discretion” … speaks powerfully to the desire to repress, and render silent.
Also worth reading is National Party MP Adrian Piccoli’s explanation of how he killed a man through homophobic prejudice.